3 Things Every Mother Of The Bride Should Think About
Exciting, scary, amazing, scary and well just…scary! Your daughter, your same little girl who you held in your arms from birth, is getting married. Now someone else will share the role of caring for her and a million emotions may be running through your mind.
Here are 3 important things every Mother of the Bride should consider to ensure the best experience possible for everyone:
“Look after your body, it’s the only place you have to live” – Jim Rohn
A wedding is not just a special day, but the beginning of a whole new chapter in your daughter’s life, and also yours as a mother. Of course, you want everything to run smoothly, for your daughter to find true happiness, and for everyone to feel impressed and enjoy the occasion.
It can be so easy to get wrapped up in creating ‘perfection’ for everyone else that you may lose sight of someone else who also deserves to be cared for. YOU.
Planning a wedding is stressful, it can’t be easy to watch your daughter turn a little bridezilla at times, and this is what makes it all the easier to forget about looking after YOU. And what good are you if you have burnt out when it counts? Balance is the key here, make sure to remember ‘me’ time just as much as you remember everyone else.
2. Your Daughter
“It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings” – Ann Landers
You have designed every birthday party, been the mind behind every gift, bought her everything she has ever needed and now she is getting married – it is surprisingly hard not to take charge as you have done so naturally for all of her life.
This big day is all about what your daughter wants, and whether you agree or not on choice of colour or cake is completely irrelevant. It is time for you to step back on the decision making and just ensure you are there to support your daughter when she needs it.
The dress, the cake, the first dance, the honeymoon, it’s all up to your daughter to decide what will work best on the day. However, someone to help guide her in achieving her dreams, to help organise everyone into their right job roles, to help collect the dress/cake/decorations etc, to prepare those back up plans and if possible offer some help financially – this kind of support is invaluable and a lot to expect from anyone.
Remember that when putting your daughter first you also need to remember your own needs by sharing responsibility when possible.
3. Your New Family
“Marriage is not just the union of two hearts, and not also the union of two lives, but also the union of two families” – T. Josh Tabares
It’s time to get to know the family who are becoming part of yours! After all, it’s imperative now for your daughters’ future that you all get along.
Things to do to help your new relationships bloom include involving them in the decision-making process, keeping them up to date with new plans and planning outings and activities to enjoy together.
Remember, every new relationship takes work and patience to become strong, so don’t hold off. Spread the love!
…And also remember, you’re doing a great job Mum!
By Claire Louise McBride, Excalibur Press