5 Ways To Support Your Bridezilla Friend Without Falling Out
How do sweet, loving friends turn into bridezillas from hell? Despite being such a joyous occasion, weddings are up there as one of the most stressful experiences of life. It is no wonder that stressed, overwhelmed and tired soon-to-be-brides seem to transform into ‘Bridezilla’ overnight.
Here are some ways in which a friend can support another if this were to happen to them:
1. Constructive Criticism
Know how to give feedback without hurting her feelings by starting with a positive and ending with your constructive feedback including recommendations, for example, “Honey, you look amazing in that top, however the lace just doesn’t suit you as well as silk does”.
Reassure your friend that you are here for her and if she is feeling stressed, she needs to let you know so that you can help her. Sometimes all we need to hear is “everything’s going okay, you’re doing a great job”.
3. Keep organised!
If you keep wedding plans organised for your bride, it should help your friend feel a sense of security that things have order. With so much happening it can be easy to feel overwhelmed, placing everything into something like a diary may just help take some of the weight off bridezillas shoulders.
4. Do things you both enjoy
Make sure you still have girly nights, coffee’s out and gym dates together. Keep up the bonding! Don’t allow the big day to take over or affect your friendship. This might require some patience and understanding from you, but it will be worth it to see your friend happy on her big day.
5. When bridezilla attacks!
Stay calm, listen to everything she has to say and be patient. If your bridezilla is being unreasonable she probably knows this deep down but is needing to vent her frustrations somehow. Give her the safe space to explore her feelings and discover where they derive from. Once your friend is in a better position, in a soft voice sit down eye to eye and explore with her what has happened that she behaved the way she had behaved. Ask her what she is wanting to achieve, brainstorm with her and be open to all her ideas no matter how ridiculous or brilliant they may seem.
Hearing them back and brainstorming how we can achieve these things with her may help her realise what will most likely work and what most likely won’t.
By Claire Louise McBride, Excalibur Press