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10 Things You Should Never Do At A Wedding

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A wedding day is the culmination of months of planning and expenditure to give the bride and groom their perfect day as they celebrate their marriage. For guests, it’s a great opportunity to show their support to the happy couple and get dressed up to have a fun day out.

If you’re attending a wedding as a guest, it’s important to remember this is more than just a day out for the bride and groom. They want you there on the most special day of their lives and to enjoy the day they have been arranging for many months. Even modern-day celebrations have a strong element of tradition and etiquette and so to ensure the nuptials get off to a good start, there are some things you should never do.

Don’t…      

Upstage the couple 

This day belongs to the bride and groom. They have planned every detail, likely spent a lot of money, and time in creating their perfect celebration, so this is not the time to hijack it. While weddings often stir up the romance, now is definitely not the time to propose to your partner and steal the limelight, nor is it a good time to share news of a pregnancy. Keep it for another day to make it all about you. This one is theirs.

Leave your outfit to the last minute 

Weddings may only last one day but the photos last forever. The couple have been striving for everything to be smooth and look good on the day, especially for their photos. Use it as an opportunity to dress up and put some effort in to compliment what they have planned. If there’s a colour theme and you’ve been asked to dress in black or white, then make the effort – the effect will be stunning.

Change guest plan last minute

Even the best laid plans fall through sometimes due to illness or childcare issues, but the bride and groom will have paid for your place and a last-minute cancellation means it’s gone to waste. If your other half can’t go and you’d like to take a friend, check with the bride and groom first so they can change the table plan and name cards, but stick to the plan as much as possible as the bride and groom will have bigger things to stress about already.

Get too drunk

As weddings often last through the day into the evening, people often end up drinking far more alcohol than they normally would. Pace yourself so you don’t end up making a show of yourself or doing something you’ll regret.

Bring up problems

Communication is good, but there is a time and place for everything. A wedding, for example, is a time and place for joy and celebration, that’s why it is important to leave the baggage behind, no matter what happened with who, now is not the time for bitterness or hostility.

Let children disrupt

Don’t let children disrupt the wedding. While children can be adorable, they can also bring chaos especially when they are bored. Keep them occupied and as settled as possible to prevent accidents such as spilled drinks or food.

Post photos of the wedding before or without the permission of the bride/groom.

Again, this is their day not yours. Never post a picture of the bride and groom without their permission, or until they have had chance to share it on social media.

Feel obliged to attend even if really sick

If you are contagious or severely unwell you are not doing the couple a favour by attending their wedding out of obligation to them. You leave other guests at risk of catching an illness including children and elderly, and the couple will not want to risk being sick on their honeymoon! Illness is an absolute valid reason to miss a wedding.

Openly criticise aspects of the wedding

This is not your wedding and any unfavourable opinions you may hold about any of the decisions made are not useful to anyone. The couple and their family will have put a lot of effort and love into making the day perfect and if things don’t go to plan, negativity is not going to fix it. Better to uplift the couple on what has gone right rather than focus on what went wrong.

Discuss the couple’s past (if not complimenting their current relationship). 

Now is not the time to bring up ex-partners of the bride and groom as they are making a public oath to love and cherish each other for the rest of their lives. Who cares what past relationships went wrong or seemed better to you, they no longer matter and now only make a learning curve for the relationship they have decided to give themselves to for the rest of their lives.