5 Things NOT To Say To Your Wedding Entertainer

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Most points made here are innocent and easily-made misinterpretations that happen all too frequently. These are only some pointers to guide you to a deeper understanding of a musicians’ point of view. Most musicians will not take most of this to heart, but some of these points are trade hates that you should be aware of.

So here are a few things which you should ideally NOT say to your wedding entertainer:

1. Last minute requests

Do not give a live musician last minute requests. Musicians spend a lot of time and effort learning every song in their set list and not many will appreciate the pressure of playing a song on the spot that they haven’t had time to prepare for, or that they don’t really know.

2. Change the plan

Do not change the plan last minute – this is risky for any musician because the player hasn’t had time to prepare, although most will rise to the challenge to try to keep everyone happy.

3. Messing with pay

This is a trade hate. Do not tell your musician or entertainer that you will pay them a part now and a part later, or worse, give them a cheque. Or worse again, just don’t pay them and leave them having to chase you months after the wedding is already over. It doesn’t feel good to chase people for money nor should it happen in the first place. Musicians work hard to pull off the perfect performance and it is the biggest insult when this effort is not valued. The full payment should be either made on the day, or a deposit paid prior the wedding followed up by the remaining balance on the day.


4. Don’t ask for them to perform for ‘exposure’

Another trade hate here – musicians will not want to learn a whole set list, put in hours and hours of practice, buy an outfit and then perform…for free! There is nothing more irritating for a musician to hear than these following statements: “Sure you’re doing what you love” or “wouldn’t you do it for the exposure”. They are hard-working musicians who have endured muscle spasms, bloody blistered fingers and thousands of hours’ dedication to reach the level of play you require for your wedding. You would not say any of these statements to a qualified accountant or a lawyer, so it should not be said to a musician.

5. Consideration

Please respect that musicians have a lot of equipment to carry around, especially those who have been hired to play several gigs at the same event. Arrange for help if the instruments are heavy and don’t leave the musician to struggle on their own. It will not only help reduce the risk of health issues caused by carrying too much, but also should help reduce the stress on the musician and lead to a smoother and happier performance.