5 Top Tips For Handling A Fall Out With Your Bridesmaid

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Weddings, like any major event, aren’t immune from the challenges we face in day to day life. This includes conflict and relationship issues that may arise for any number of reasons. If you happen to fall out with one of your bridesmaids, it may be difficult to handle the stress along with wedding planning and general wedding jitters. But, thankfully, there are always things we can do to address the situation and ease the pressure.

Here are 5 top tips for handling a fall out with your bridesmaid:

1. Don’t panic

First of all, try not to panic! It may seem like a real spanner in the works, and you may be feeling quite upset, but conflict is a part of life and it’s how we handle it that really matters. So recognise that these things happen, take a few deep breaths, and try not to react with panic or anger.

2. Damage Control

Secondly, see what you can do to alleviate the situation immediately. The earlier you address problems, the easier they are to deal with. Whether your bridesmaid disappointed you, you had a disagreement over something large or small, or you behaved in a way that created the argument, check if there are any ways you can limit the damage so it doesn’t become a bigger issue. This may include leaving the situation, apologising if you are in the wrong, or focusing on other aspects of the planning so as not to feed the conflict.

3. Take a break

It’s important to take a step back when you’ve fallen out with anyone so you can see the bigger picture. Take a day off, go for a long walk, or set aside some quiet time for relaxation or meditation. You’ll be much better equipped to cope with things if you’ve given yourself some breathing space. Once you have some perspective, you can decide to prioritise either making up with your bridesmaid or focusing on the rest of the wedding.

4. Consider Your Options

What can you do to resolve the situation? If you and your bridesmaid have fought over something like dress choice or hen party arrangements, this could be easily amended by sitting down and having an honest chat. If, however, the fall out is more serious, try to gauge whether lending an olive branch would be appropriate to the situation. Can you replace your bridesmaid if necessary? Is the argument worth affecting the rest of your wedding plans? Remember, you can only do your best, and not all conflicts can be resolved with a simple apology (although many can). So, do what you can to rectify things or change plans but recognise and accept when there’s nothing more you can do at that moment.


5. Ask for help

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the stress of the fall out, don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends, family or a neutral person. They may be able to give you a better perspective on the issue, although ultimately you will need to go with your gut instinct. A little support goes a long way, and that’s what loved ones are there for.