Bestman

6 Tips for the Perfect Best Man’s Speech

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One of the major tasks of the best man is to deliver a speech on the wedding day. It’s a big job and you want to do your very best, so it’s something of a nerve-racking moment as well. The speech should be entertaining and genuine. Here are a few tips for writing and delivering the perfect best man’s speech:

1.     Plan ahead

In the run-up to the wedding, you’re going to busier than usual — suit fittings, organising stag nights etc. — so you have to start writing and planning your speech at least a couple of months before the big day. Don’t try to write it at the very last minute. You need to time to memorise and rehearse it as well, don’t forget.

2.     Open with a one liner

When you start your speech, you’ve really got to grab the audience’s attention. Open with a witty one-liner. Not only will it make the guests sit up and pay attention, it also sets the mood and suggests they’ll be in for a great speech.

3.     Stay sober

It’s understandable that you’ll be feeling a bit nervous before the speech. There’s nothing wrong with a little drink to steady those nerves, but this should be within reason. No one likes a rambling, incoherent drunk. If you’re feeling nervous, take a few deep breaths before you start. Then speak slowly and clearly so everyone can hear. This is much better and more confident than a rushed delivery.

4.     Tell a story

A story is a good way to connect with the audience. Discussing how the bride and groom are a balance for each other is always a worthy angle. You could start off with a personality trait about the groom that trips him up and tell a story about a funny situation it has caused. Then comment how the bride is the opposite, which allows the couple to complement each other nicely. Avoid telling a rude or overly embarrassing story, however.

5.     Keep the speech short

The best man’s speech is an important speech, but it won’t be the only one. The groom will give a speech, the father of the bride will give one and the bride may wish to, so don’t make yours go on forever. The guests could get fed up otherwise. Aim to keep your speech to 5 to 10 minutes.

6.     Remember to thank everyone

A lot of people will have gone to a lot of effort and expense to make the day a success, so don’t forget to acknowledge them. Be sure to mention the bride’s and the groom’s parents by name. Congratulate them on raising two such outstanding people. Don’t forget to thank the guests for coming, too.

Although you shouldn’t be offensive or controversial in your speech, most of all, you should be yourself. If you’re not naturally funny, you don’t have to make your speech a laugh-a-thon and instead you can go down the heartfelt route. A speech that is genuine and heartfelt will always go down well with the bride and groom and their families and with the rest of the wedding guests.