6 Top Tips For Being The Perfect Bridesmaid

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Being a bridesmaid involves a lot of work behind the scenes to help make the wedding day an unforgettable event for the happy couple.

Here are some tips to make sure you are the best bridesmaid a bride could wish for:


1. Don’t leave all the work to the Maid of Honour or the Bride

While the Hen party planning might be the job of the maid of honour, don’t be afraid to offer her a helping hand, brainstorming can help tease out any issues that might arise and help turn an ideas into an actual event. Even if she says she doesn’t need any help, she will appreciate the offer and might later take you up on your help.

The preparations for the big day can be quite overwhelming for everyone involved, especially the bride. Offer to help with small tasks such as collecting relatives from the airport, to helping with the cake tasting sessions. On the morning of the wedding help out by keeping an eye on the time and assisting the bride to arrive on time.

2. Lend a listening ear

Tensions and emotions will be running high close to and on the big day. Don’t be afraid to step in and mediate as well as offer a listening ear to any worries, fears and issues those in the wedding party might have. Remember, it’s natural for a bride to feel nervous, be there for her and act as a sounding board for her concerns.

3. Make sure you and the bridesmaids (and the bride!) look your best

After all the planning it would be a shame if something as small as lipstick on teeth ruined your look. Getting married doesn’t happen every day, so you need to ensure the bridal party is looking their best and not lacklustre. Do spot checks on group appearance before the ceremony and the bride walks down the aisle, as well as before you get the photographs taken.

4. If you have to give a speech, practice makes perfect

When it comes to a speech, practice makes perfect and ensures you don’t spend the entire speech staring at notes. However this doesn’t mean you can’t have notes but if you need them try and keep them on some neat cards so you aren’t pulling out a crumpled lined piece of paper.

Here are a few key elements to help you structure the speech:

Always start with a solid introduction about who you, and your relation to the groom, and don’t forget to welcome to the guests. You can crack a joke if you want here, it can help settle your nerves.

Next is perhaps the most important topic of your speech, an introduction to the bride. You can reminisce about a funny anecdotal story, but try and avoid very embarrassing stories that the groom and the bride might not appreciate being told. Finally, part with a word of advice and raise a toast to the happy couple.

5. Can I have a drink at the reception?

Yes you can! However, make sure you keep an eye on how much you are drinking. During the reception it can be easy for the drinks to pile up pretty quickly. You don’t want to risk taking the attention away from the couple by accidentally having the attention focused on yourself and any drunken antics you might get up to.

6. Remember, It’s Not Your Special Day

Remember you are there as support and it isn’t your big day, you don’t want to outshine the bride and make what should be their big day all about you. You aren’t getting married and this ceremony and reception is meant to be about celebrating the happy couple, so do your best to help keep the spotlight on the couple, but don’t forget to have fun!

By Felicity McKee, Excalibur Press