Catching a glimpse at the Mother of the Bride
IF there is one person other than the bride and her bridesmaids that everyone will be eager to catch a glimpse of, it is your mother. Take the stress out of shopping for an outfit by leaving plenty of time to have a look for that something special.
Bridal stores and boutiques will be on hand with attention to detail so your mother knows what best suits her shape, style and colouring. Your mother will probably need to have some savings set aside as this tends to be a one-off outfit that requires more cash than the norm. Don’t forget the accessories and the traditional essential that is the hat.
With so much variety in headpieces today, you can opt from anything from a simple but elegant fascinator to a mini cocktail or a full on bridal hat. As for etiquette, it is always worth knowing or at least having an idea of the colour the groom’s mother is thinking of so there is no embarrassing clash on the day itself.
Traditionally, the mother of the bride purchases her dress first but this is not necessary. When you have decided on something, it is a nice gesture to let the groom’s mother know what you have chosen to save her second-guessing and panicking when she looks for her outfit. A colour will suffice. Try and avoid anything in the white, ivory, and champagne colour family so to avoid anything too close to the bridal dress.
Aside from the outfit the mother of the bride will have a key role in the wedding to be a constant support to you, her daughter. This means listening and offering advice when needed, sharing in those special moments, helping you find the wedding dress of your dreams and helping to look for wedding and reception locations.
If they haven’t already met, arrange a gathering with the groom’s family so everyone knows and is comfortable with each other on the big day. If your parents are contributing to the wedding financially, discuss the wedding budget, what they are willing to pay for, and the ideal number of guests.
Draw up the guest list for your side of the family, and later, close to the date of the wedding, get your mum to help you call any of your guests who are late in RSVPing. The mother-of-the bride will also act as hostess at the wedding and reception, making sure guests are comfortable.