Don’t Tell The Groom: 1 in 3 Brides Are Making ALL The Wedding Decisions

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New research has revealed some shocking statistics when it comes to wedding planning:

Over 35% of brides surveyed weren’t willing to let their future husbands make ANY decisions about their wedding without them.

According to a survey of 2,235 adults in the UK, carried out by One4all, the Post Office gift card, bridezillas across Britain are controlling the entire process of planning their weddings, allowing minimal input from their fiances.

Only half of the husbands-to-be surveyed chose their best man or groomsmen on their own, showing that 50% of UK brides are influencing the decision.

Shockingly, only half of grooms had an input on who attended the wedding or contributed to the guest list. Brighton is home to the most controlling brides in the UK, followed by Plymouth and Norwich, and the decisions that brides were least willing to let the groom make were: the bride’s outfit, the bridesmaids, the flowers, the cake and the decor.

Not only our controlling brides dominating the wedding planning, they are also hiding how much they spend: 1 in 5 admitted to lying about the cost of something they purchased for the wedding.

Brides are most likely to fib about the cost of the dress, shoes, the hen party, accessories and hair and make-up, with 37% lying about the price of the wedding dress and 1 in 4 about the shoes.

Meanwhile, the tradition of the bride’s family paying for the wedding is dying out, with 23% of married couples confirming they paid for the day themselves. 11% of groom’s parents reportedly contributed to the wedding either equally or more than the bride’s.

Aoife Davey, marketing manager at One4all Gift Cards, said: “It’s interesting to see how modern newlyweds are planning their nuptials, and how the majority of the decisions now sit with the bride.

Weddings are traditionally all about the bride, and still are to some extent, but now that grooms and their families are investing financially in the wedding, it seems only fair that they should get some say in what happens on the day and who attends.”

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According to new research, even the tradition of the man’s proposal is declining in popularity, with just 51% of grooms actually ‘popping the question’.

Davey said: “There are wedding traditions that some in modern society might deem old fashioned and that’s ok, but it’s important to remember that it is a special day for both the bride and the groom, and therefore both should have equal responsibility for making decisions when planning the wedding.”

What do you think, should wedding planning be a joint decision?

The One4all Gift Card is available to buy from Post Offices nationwide and online at, and can be spent in more than 22,000 stores across the UK.

By Abby Williams, Excalibur Press