Who Gets Tipped At The Wedding & Why
Weddings can be very expensive and require careful budgeting, so it may surprise you to know that there are customary tips for some suppliers and services.
Some of the below are considered mandatory, while others are optional, but either way make sure these are included in your budget so there are no nasty surprises later on.
- Wedding Planner
If you use the services of a wedding planner, you can appreciate just what a difficult job they have to do. Not only are they under pressure to deliver you the wedding of your dreams, but they often have to put up with the most neurotic of Brides, who contact them multiple times a day with questions, changes, and new ideas. If your wedding planner has taken the stress off you, delivered you a fantastic wedding day, and gone above and beyond the call of duty, a tip or gift will be much appreciated.
- Religious Wedding
If you are having your wedding in a place of worship, such as a chapel or church, there are usually fees associated with this, often referred to as “donations”. The priest, vicar, minister etc., should be able to advise you as to what the recommended donation is, but from research it seems to be in the region of £100-£200.
- Hair and Makeup
Hairstylists and makeup artists are usually quite pricey for weddings, but they also usually come to your home from the crack of dawn to make sure you and your Bridal party look amazing. If you receive excellent service, you may want to offer a tip, which can be cash or a gift, but this is not compulsory. If the hairstylist and makeup artist work for a larger company, any tips will be kept by them, which is a nice touch if they have given you great service.
- Cake, Flowers, and Set-up Staff
It is entirely optional as to whether you decide to tip your wedding suppliers, but again you may wish to tip the individuals who actually help to set-up and deliver your wedding, as opposed to the company they work for. Tips can be in the form of a gift, such as a box of chocolates or a bottle of wine, as opposed to a cash tip, and they can be handed out by your Best Man and Maid of Honour should they be given out on the wedding day.
- Photographer and Videographer
It is common practice to include a meal for the photographer and/or videographer on the day of the wedding, if they are with you for the full event. Alternatively, if you are having a buffet, make sure to let them know that they are welcome to enjoy it. It is also common to buy them a drink at the end of their service, which would constitute a tip.
Whether you have a live band, DJ, acoustic singer, or instrument player, or all of the above at some point during your day, it is often appreciated but not required, to offer them a tip. In the case of the evening entertainment, this could also be in the form of a meal or inclusion in the buffet, with a drink provided at the end of the evening.
The only tips that are customary are those to the place of worship if you are having a religious wedding ceremony, all others are considered optional. Receiving a tip or small gift for a job well done is always appreciated.
However, many wedding suppliers state that a testimonial they can use in their marketing, some photos of their service in use on your wedding day for their portfolio (such as your makeup, or the flower arrangements), and future referrals to other Brides and Grooms, are often preferred.
So if you would prefer not to tip, take the time to send a Thank You card with a comment the supplier can use to promote their goods and services in the future.
By Rachel Doherty, Excalibur Press