How to Decide Who Gets a Plus One At Your Wedding

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There’s no denying that when it comes to inviting people to your wedding, you’ll always have some tough choices to make. You can’t invite everyone, as much as you’d like to. Everyone you do invite is likely to want to bring a plus one. The thing is, the wedding budget just won’t stretch that far, so how do you decide who gets a plus one to your wedding and who doesn’t?

Here are a few tips to help you decide:

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1. Make an inventory of the guest list

Create an inventory of your guest list and see how many of the guests know each other. If they don’t, will they be happy to mingle with the other guests, or are they the shy, retiring type who’ll smile and nod but not much more? Not allowing them a plus one may cut some costs, but it could be jolly uncomfortable all round if you make them come alone.

2. Ask yourself how long the couple have been together

When you’re deciding who gets to bring a plus one, one of the main questions to ask is, ‘How long have they been together?’ Normally, you’ll invite couples who are married or engaged, who live together or, possibly, who have been dating more than a year. If your wedding is going to be the setting for a Tinder first date, you might feel another guest would be more deserving of a plus one.

3. Think of the extra costs

Remember that a wedding can be an expensive affair. If each of your guests comes with their plus one, this means you’ll have to add more wedding breakfasts, more seating and tables, more decorations etc. Consider your budget. Can you cover all this extra expense? More importantly, do you want to? Maybe you’d like to spend less on the catering but more on the wedding photography, for instance.

4. Be consistent

You might decide to set a few next level rules for plus ones. Perhaps only the bridal party gets a plus one. Maybe you’re allowing guests over 18 years old only to bring their better half. Whatever the rule is, stick to the rule. If you don’t, there could be arguments in the run-up to the big day, or worse still, on it.

5. Prioritise the comfort of your guests

First and foremost, the guests at your wedding need to feel comfortable. They’re making the effort to be at your special day and you want them to enjoy it as much as you do. Be sensitive to their needs without compromising your own, and use your intuition when it comes to allocating plus ones.

Nobody likes to be left out, but by following these tips, you can make sensible decisions that are fair to your guests and keep the sparkle in your day. Let everyone remember it for the right reasons, not the wrong ones.