Man Of Few Words: 6 Top Tips For Grooms Who Don’t Like Speaking In Public

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For practically everyone, writing and delivering a speech is one of the most pressure-inducing situations. The sweaty palms and dry lips send fear all over your body – the audience staring back at you while the words become a blur on the page. The fear adds a lot of stress to the day of all days: your wedding! This speech is said to be one of the most important, but don’t sweat it.

Here are a few top tips to make grooms feel at ease and confidently deliver that speech:

1. Stay calm and neutral

Take one word at a time, and take a breath. Before you get up, remind yourself; this is a room filled with all the closest and most important people in your life. They want you to succeed.

2. Be confident, even if you’re not

As the best saying goes “Fake it ’til you make it”. If you act confident, then they’ll believe you’re confident. Be stern, but relaxed, in your speech.


3. Keep eye contact

One of the best ways to get through any speech is to keep eye contact with the crowd. Look up and out to the crowd, or better yet, to the bride next to you. This eye contact will give you a lift to keep you going through the speech – a gentle nod from a guest will spur you on.

4. Keep it short and sweet

The worst thing you can do for yourself when you’re not overly confident at public speaking is give yourself a novel to read aloud. Keep it short and direct. Thank your family, bride and surrounding parties and add in an anecdote to keep it personal. Make her swoon! (The bride, that is).


5. Practice, practice, practice!

This is key for those shy grooms. Practice your speech until you know it inside out like your own mobile number. The more you practice, the more confident you will come across to the crowd you are addressing.

6. Keep it fun

Lastly, remember that this is a speech at your wedding, not a grueling business conference. If you can, open with a joke and tell a few stories about how you both met or how nervous you were on the day. It’s so crucial to keep the speech fresh and, most importantly, speak from the heart!

By Caitlain Rafferty, Excalibur Press