Wedding Guests: Here’s What NOT To Do On The Big Day

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We all love a wedding – seeing old friends and family, the music, location, food and wine can all lift our spirits. While it is important to let go and have fun at a wedding, it’s also good to remember that there are certain faux pas at these affairs and you don’t want to be the guest who is remembered for all the wrong reasons!

Here are 7 things to avoid as a wedding guest:

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Wearing White

The only person who should be wearing white is the bride. It is generally frowned upon to wear white or all black to a wedding. Try to wear something subtle and not too revealing, you can still dress to impress but don’t upstage the bride. It’s her day, after all.

Getting Too Drunk

It’s very easy to overdo it at a wedding, everyone is in great spirits and the wine is flowing. Just try to pace yourself. Drink glasses of water in between drinks and if you feel yourself getting a little tiddly, lay off the booze for a bit and have a coffee. Remember to eat well on the morning of the wedding, you may be offered some bubbly or wine before the meal is served so make sure you don’t have an empty stomach.

Bringing someone who wasn’t invited

Weddings are expensive and can cost quite a lot of money per head, for both the meal and drinks. If you haven’t RSVP’d, chances are your meal will not have been accounted for. The same goes for +1’s. It’s not that the bride and groom are being rude, room capacity and budget for meals can sometimes be limited, so remember to RSVP.


A wedding day is a day to celebrate love. A lot of time and work has gone into sculpting the perfect day for the bride, groom and their friends and family. These plans probably don’t include guests arguing. If you do have a problem with another guest just put your differences aside for one day. Try to stay away from them and just enjoy yourself.

Forgetting to put your phone on silent

No one wants to be the person who forgets to put their phone on silent. It’s luck of the draw that it will ring just as the bride is walking down the aisle. Save yourself the embarrassment and switch your phone to silent. Or better yet, turn it off completely.

Posting wedding pics online while at the wedding

It’s up to the bride and groom to post their wedding photos online. They have paid a photographer to take shots for them on the day to ensure they have the nicest possible images to remember their special day. Don’t steal their thunder by posting pics of their wedding before they get the chance to.

Bad speeches

Whether it’s the fact that you have said something completely inappropriate, decided to make a speech when no one has invited you to do so or that you have held the floor for about 25 minutes, a speech faux pas can be one of the most embarrassing and memorable. If you’re going to make a speech make sure you read it to a few trusted friends first to get a second or third opinion.

By Jennifer Warnock, Excalibur Press