Wedding Party Politics Is A Minefield For Couples, Research Says

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Choosing who to have as bridesmaids and groomsmen is a minefield for couples as places in the wedding party are limited, according to new research showing how difficult it is to decide who will be donning dresses and who will be wearing the tops and tails.


A survey of 750 married adults carried out by One4all, the Post Office gift card, found almost one in four (23%) young brides and grooms say their friends and family squabbled over who was in their wedding party. With the average wedding party being made up of just 3.9 people – 2.18 bridesmaids and 1.72 groomsmen to be precise, it’s perhaps not surprising that places within it are widely debated.

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Family are most likely to make the cut, with 30% opting to keep the wedding party in the family, while 17% say they chose based on who they were closest to at the time of the wedding. In fact, just 7% say they chose their bridesmaids and groomsmen based on who they had known the longest. These difficult and often ‘political’ decisions might be the reason why newlyweds opt to keep their immediate wedding party rather intimate and leave the rest to join in the service and reception.

62% of those surveyed confess to no longer being in touch with everyone from their wedding party, while almost 1 in 10 (9%) don’t see anyone from their wedding party at all any more. Despite wedding party politics being a regular occurrence, more than one in three (37%) feel weddings are all about the bride and groom and they should choose whoever they want to be a bridesmaid or groomsman without anyone else influencing their decision.

Rachel Delaney, group marketing manager at One4all Gift Cards, said: “It’s interesting to see that choosing bridesmaids and groomsmen is such a bone of contention for so many couples. Planning a wedding should be one of the most exciting and fun times in a person’s life, yet it seems that worrying about decisions such as who will be bridesmaid or groomsman is dampening that.

Couples should be surrounded by the people they love the most on their wedding day – whether that is a sibling or a new friend, the most important thing is that they are happy with their choice, and that everyone is there to celebrate the happy couple and make the day as special as it can possibly be.”

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By Jonathan Traynor